20081223

Numero Uno

We usually make friends, relationships, and hope that they remain close to us forever. It's just like when we were younger we wanted our mother, father, whoever to be the most important person to us.

But feelings can change, and it can happen really quickly. When you get married, is your mum or dad still going to be the most important person to you? Or is it going to be your spouse? What about when you've kids? Of course, some of you will be quick to say that all of them are equally important, but are things really that simple? What if you have to make a choice?

Similarly, at our age right now, we want this girlfriend, or friend, of ours to be the most important person in our heart. But it's not going to be an unchanging fact. Sadly, for most of us, it's hard to accept that. It's hard when you realise that your friends no longer mean the most to you, and it's also hard when you realise that you no longer mean so much to someone. The important thing is REALISING that, and learning to accept it, on both sides. Be honest with yourself. You might feel like shit that your mum is no longer the most important person to you, and your mum might probably feel hurt knowing that. But it's important to be honest to yourself.

It's not just a feeling, it's a decision. At least, to me it is.

It's a decision that, when you've already decided that someone is a friend to you, when the time comes for you to be there for him/her, you'd be there. Even if the most important person to you is your spouse. Even if you've decided that someone is number one in your heart, surely there are others who are important to you?

This reminds me of a post Mac posted a while back.

'God determines who walks into your life. You decide who you'd let walk away, who you let to stay and who you refuse to let go.'

Have a Merry Christmas my friends =).

On another note, I'm quite happy with my examination results, except for one subject, but oh well =).

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